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Friday, August 31, 2007

enlightened...

i'm thankful that i have pple who understand me & make me feel like i'm not in a mess. still trying hard to do the "right" thing.

purpose of this post todae...is to share my experience in HR class todae. it was a realli interesting 3 hr session..& its one of the few lessons where i didn't feel sleepy at all...not even a tiny winy bit. coz we learnt about Perception, Personality and Perspectives. basically some bits of different views from psychology & sociology. i've alwayz thought psychology is so interesting...but its onli interesting w/o the examinations. nice to learn...but not easy to take as a major...thats y i didn't go there.

anywayz... my mind drifted away while the tutor spoke...juz for short moments. while i applied what he juz said on myself. this is the right time...so it all made sense. personality differences: nature(psycho) vs nurture(socio). nature means genetically formed..u r borned the way u r...which cannot be changed much. nurture is what pple make out of u. i guess it juz boils down to how strong u r...deep inside...if u can focus on ur nature & not ur nurture. if u r strong...u will stick by your beliefs and not be altered by situations that differ u. otherwise, based on nurture...ur environment determines how u behave & what u'll become. in reality, we are a product of our situational factors to a large extent..means.. more of nurture. simple eg: if u grow up in a poor family...ur thoughts and behaviours are different from a rich person's. another would be the case study given, a good prisoner was tortured by his cell mates as he wasn't like them(not as evil)..so in order to fit in...he had to act like he was one of them...otherwise he would have been wacked to death. in this extreme case...i guess there wasn't much of a choice...if he wanted to stay alive. hence, the best result of this...is to follow the evils for the sake of pleasing them...but most importantly, hold on to ur own beliefs and values inside u. somehow i can understand how the prisoner feels...juz not in such an extreme situation ba.

the tutor asked: " Can u decide on something & juz get it done?" it got us thinking...its actually quite difficult. of course not refering to those mundane stuff...but more like in tough situtaions where consequences are severe. if its me...i already have difficulties deciding on which one...dun even have to think about getting it done. anyway...he showed us perception images...& it was real fun. visual perception like this one..u're supposed to see a vase & the 2 faces. 1 more extra task: try to focus on onli one (either the vase OR the faces)...& ignore the other. try it. its impossible. coz according to the tutor, the other view is forcing itself into ur mind. this is how our brain works...when 2 things are equal, its hard to reconcile on one. no wonder...we canot bring ourselves to accept something not desired coz our insecurities are constantly somewhere un-ignorable.

another test was on equal length lines...showing that reality and perceptions are different. maybe this is the reason why we have misunderstandings and quarrels ba. also found a great website to facinate and test urself if u're realli free.
http://www.scientificpsychic.com/graphics/

ok...enough of all these visual perception stuff. some may think all these are very simple...but i'm juz facinated by it lah can. the reasonings juz link with my perspectives of life. luckily i dun study psychology... otherwise i'll be thinking doubly hard... which is bad for my brain...& i'll realli go psycho.

so i guess it all lies in.. listening to psycho(who u realli are) views or socio(wat pple think of u) views. following psycho is good...but sometimes situations does not allow it or makes it darn difficult to. thats y we turn to socio..but following socio will make u a different person altogether...a person u don't wish to be. now i believe how tough it is...how haunting it feels. i've chose the prisoner's path...nurture to please "society" but nature still unchanged. both choices are not righteous. as much as i feel sorry & bad abt it...i juz hope i can be strong enough. thanx blossomz. thanx to all. & most imptly...seldom said but truely felt...thanx to U.

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